The Eclectic Impetus

Cities look different in the night. What is not so obvious becomes crystal clear in the lights that make the city a bustling place. The city becomes alive as the light fades. To all the city dwellers, with their busy lives and most of their time being spent in commute, they still manage to enjoy every moment. Photo courtesy Станислав Забурдаев

Why do we set expectations from people? Right from our childhood, our parents set expectations for us. We are expected to do well at school, get good grades, get into a good college and get a good job. What happens when we don't meet the expectations? Photo Courtesy: lawlogix.com We are branded as rebellious. We are termed uncaring. We are given silent treatments and other forms of emotional blackmail to meet expectations set by our loved ones. Setting expectations on someone is never favourable. We are disappointed each time the other person doesn't live up to our expectation. It can be a simple thing as calling up to inform someone if you are going to be late. We will be waiting, imagining all sorts of gruesome things that might have happened. In today's modern world, where everyone is connected through different channels of communication, it gets more annoying that the person is unavailable even through one. The solution to the problem is very simple.

I had this amazing experience today. Not exactly amazing but really unexpected. There is this guy in my office and for a long time I had been curious about him. The only time I see him is during lunch. After observing the number of coincidences during lunch, I managed to figure out his usual lunch timings and I sync my lunch timing with his. If you think it's stalking then it's your opinion. For a long time I had been trying to figure out his place of residence. Till date I don't know his name although I have a fairly easy means of doing it. For convenience, let's call him Mr. J. I want to know it the hard way. Getting back to my story, I was sort of late today but I managed to catch an auto without having to wait for long. I happened to spot Mr. J a few minutes after I had gotten into the auto. It was a total surprise for I hadn't seen him the last few days. I was forced to alter my lunch schedule due to work. Although it was just a glimpse, I felt exhilarate

I started watching Teen Wolf recently and I now find wolves adorable. If you don't agree, take a good look at this beautiful animal. Doesn't it make you want to cuddle it, if you can forget the viciousness it normally represents? Photo courtesy: Guy Rougier

Photo courtesy:  paradigm-shift-21st-century.nl Right from our childhoods, we are are told to be good and good things will happen to us. Who decides what is good and what isn't? Is it the religious leaders who shove the fear of God in our faces? Is it the politicians who only think about their own gains? Or is it our near and dear ones who pour our their life experiences even when you didn't ask for it? Goodness is relative. It always has been and always will be. You may be good but you are “not as good enough” as the the next person in the eyes on the “one who scrutinized both of you” and passed a judgement based on his or her experience, opinion or bias. You can never be good for someone who has already formed an opinion about you. No matter what you do or say to them, they are too busy passing judgement. In such cases, it is always best to avoid or ignore their company. It would save you a lot of time and energy trying to please them. In some situation

Most people in cities do not have an active lifestyle. We spend our weekdays burning out our mental energies and use the weekends to try to rejuvenate it. But that never works. It is rightly said, A healthy mind in a healthy body, because you cannot be physically fit without having a great mind and the same goes to having a healthy mind. St Thomas Shrine There is a place called St. Thomas Mount in Chennai. I got to know about it only recently and I thought it would be a nice way to spend the weekend. As the name suggests, it is on a hill,  but it isn't very high. However the path leading to it is steep and you can get breathless if you aren't used to physical activity. It took twenty minutes to climb to the peak. It can vary depending on your speed and stamina. The runway in the distance I were mesmerised by the views of the city from there. Since it was evening and the sky was overcast, the whole city seemed to be engulfed in an eerie charm. The runway of t

Photo Courtesy: all-wallpapers-desktop.blogspot.com I found the below few lines while searching for something on my computer and I thought of updating it here. Before you can grow up, you must fall in love three times. Once, you must fall in love with your best friend, ruining your friendship forever. This will teach you who your true friends are, and the fine line between friendship and more. Once you must fall in love with someone you believe is perfect. You will learn that no one is perfect, and that you should never be treated as anything less than you deserve. And once, you must fall in love with someone that is exactly like you. This will teach you about who you are, and who you want to be. And when you’re through with all that, you learn that the people who care about you the most are the ones that you hurt, and the ones that hurt you are the ones that needed you the most. But most of all, you learn that love is only a concept and is not something that can be

I am not a dog person and I am not afraid to admit it. Since my childhood, dogs have had a certain dislike for me and I must say the feeling is mutual. I remember this one time when some street dogs chased us and almost bit my leg. To avoid all incivility, I tend to avoid visiting homes of people who have dogs. As luck would have it, my current residence owners have a dog and it has been an on-going fight within myself and with the dog ever since I moved in. Until the day I moved, I hadn't seen the dog and vice versa. So on the day I shifted, the dog was very protective about its territory. I haven't seen him welcome any other tenant in that manner. The dog's name is Jackie and I will refer to him thus from here. Jackie is a wonderful dog and has adventures of his own. Like the one time when it ran away, only to return several weeks later. I was impressed by his faithfulness and love for his owners, who treat him not so affectionately. Recently Jackie wanted to esca

Photo Courtesy: bbhxmnstr All months that start on a Sunday have Friday, the 13th in them and this month was one of them. I am a believer of superstition, mostly the positive ones. After reading The Alchemist, I have been on the lookout for omens. Last Friday, I had some experiences and I thought it might be a good idea to share them. I had a dream, in which I see an old colleague of mine. That day in office, I get a mail from her stating it's her last day. There is another friend of mine, who is expecting a baby and I thought about her as it had been a while since we last spoke. She called me to say that she will be on leave from Monday. These two incidents do not mean anything big. They are just coincidences which are likely to happen. But what makes them happen at the time you want them to happen? I believe that we all have a power to make things happen. Everything around us happens because we wish for it to happen, even if it is at the subconscious level. There i

I wish I had a ride like this. That would add a great new meaning to the phrase "painting the town red". With the top down, and the wind in my hair, I would zip through town and have all the heads turn. Just the thought of it makes me want to take a trip. Photo courtesy: Евгений Малько

What is it about being in love that makes the person crazy? We all want that special someone in our lives, someone who understands us and who is always there for us. After a lot of praying and craving, you finally meet the person. And then what do you do? You alienate all your friends for that "special person". Feeling loved is a basic human need. Right from the time we are born, till we die, we need someone who will love us unconditionally. And it needn't (and most often not) be your significant other. For those of us, who have friends who are recently in love, it can be a pain, especially if things are not going too well for you in the love front. The "friend" who used to be by your side all the time, is no longer available when you need them. And if that wasn't enough, they come to you when things are not so great with their "love". When they need someone to vent out their sadness and "loss of an important person", they remem

Many times we hesitate, for a lot of reasons. but there is no other way than to ask. Even a recent TV ad says the same. Also, there is no harm in asking. When you want to find out what's going on or just want to find out anything, just ask.

Today is Ganesh Chaturthi. It is a festival celebrated in honour of the birthday of the Vanquisher of Obstacles. Wishing you all a Happy Ganesh Chaturthi and may all your wishes come true. Photo courtesy:  Craffts.com

The following incident happened in a bus in one of the big cities. It is common for people to "reserve" seats in bus by placing their belongings. It so happened that one dude "reserved" a seat in the bus by placing his lunch box through the window. By the time, he got in, another dude was sitting in "his" seat. But the adjacent seat was vacant. The first dude argued that the other dude was sitting in "his" seat while the second dude said that there the other could sit in the adjacent seat. The two of them argued for a long time over the seat. Such incidents make me wonder if some people ever grow up. Both of them were working professionals, in multi-national companies and seemed to be in good positions. This incident, among other things made me wonder if the two of them ever left high school. All their education and their social standing went down the drain, even though I did not know who they were. I have met many people like this in m

There is always an alternate explanation to everything that happens.

Patience is a virtue or so they say. You made me patient, except when you make me lose patience.

I got this thought-provoking question from my friend and I haven't been at peace since then. I will admit that I do not have a USP per se but being agitated is a reward in itself. Being agitated means you want to move out of your present situation, even if the transition is not smooth. I have read a lot of blogs which talk about SEO and having a niche and other jargon which was very overwhelming to me. I did spend some time on it, figuring out what it is that I wanted to accomplish with my blog and I went bonkers. I might have also lost some sleep due to this. Below is the comment in its original form: I felt it a bit all over the place. A reader/follower needs a reason/focus to follow I hadn't thought about the focus until then. My friend had asked an appropriate question. The only answer that I could think of was that my blog is a medium to express my thoughts, my experiences in my way. I may sound rude but that was my primary intention in creating a blog. The only rea

Continuing with Monday Muse series, I found a cute picture on Jay Ryness ' photo stream on Flickr. If this cute kitty doesn't brighten up your mood, I'm not sure what will. Wishing you all a great week. Photo courtesy: Jay Ryness

Truth is quite hard for people to digest. Don't believe me? Well, that's exactly my point. We tend to avoid certain things that we don't want to deal with. It isn't absent, but hidden from view, somewhere outside the scope. When someone points it out to us, it brings back all the stuff that we want hidden and it causes a furore in us. All the negative emotions come into place and we end up hating the person for pointing it to us. These need not be the bigger things in life. Suppose your girlfriend asks your opinion about her new dress and you find it hideous. Imagine a situation when you want to be candid and you tell her the exact thing in your mind. I don't need to tell you anything else to give you the picture. For your own good, to avoid all the drama for you and her, you fib to her and tell her it's an awesome dress. On a bigger note, where do we draw the line for truth? Is it okay to tell white lies or should you be scrupulous? What if you get into